Dating Advice To Know
By Christian Lalov
It might be safe to say that most people don't know how to successfully date, or even start talking with a person they’re interested in. Although most folks inevitably realize there's no golden path to pursuing or maintaining a relationship, there are a few things you can adhere to that make the process of finding that special someone all the easier…
Look Out For Potential
A crucial element to successfully dating is not to be enamored with someone's potential. Everyone has flaws and people are constantly trying to improve themselves whether they’re in a relationship or single.
Yet, there’s many aspirations and goals that people should be actively striving for or have already reached prior to getting involved with someone romantically. This applies to professional and personal pursuits alike.
Believe Someone When They Show Themselves
If something behaves, looks, and quacks like a duck, it's more than likely a duck. When someone shows you they are inattentive, inconsiderate of your schedule, or controlling, you should trust them. These are best known around circle of friends, “red flags.” You may have been warned of these before by friends or family members. Although you’re likely attracted to these type of folks they many not be the best relationship candidate.
So, if you’re looking for a long-term partner, it's best to cut all ties when those red flags come up, before you get too emotionally invested.
Avoid Manipulation
Of course, there are a number of personality traits that are clear red flags to avoid, as no one is perfect, but when it comes to apologies, take note. When someone says they're sorry for something when they make a mistake but don't change their behavior (or attempt to change) this is a clear sign of manipulation. Influencing you in an unfair way is the definition of manipulation, so don’t for the same tricks over and over.
It's just as important to keep yourself away from manipulation to ensure you can balance your emotions and make realistic, smart decisions.
The person you're interested in should be invested based on just how much they invest in you mutually, 50/50 is a good start. No matter how much you believe someone is interested, or how much you are interested in them, if your partner is not willing to meet you half way they may not want they same things as you right now.
Practice Self Care
Remember that individuals won't see any value in you if you fail to see meaningful value in yourself. When you're able to care for yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally, you're demonstrating just how you expect others to treat you. Being confident, well-rounded, physically fit, and approachable will draw other like-mind individuals right into your arms.
Be with a person who celebrates such character qualities and reciprocates the energy. You need to look for an individual that is able to keep their insecurity and self-esteem in check so that it doesn't interfere with the relationship.
Always Be Positive
It simply isn't realistic to stay positive all the time. Yet, you need to try your best to keep a positive mindset when dating, strong minds will create strong relationships.
Do not allow your negative experiences (relationships) from the past to interfere with your current relationship by giving a date the unwanted impression of guarding. Remember to have a fun time, maintain the necessary boundaries, but show off your playful, friendly side when on the search for the right person.
